Do You Understand People?

The greatest thing in learning the four human Temperaments is it helps you understand the people around you!


I have a husband, kids, grandkids, co-workers, friends, and an assortment of people who come in and out of my life on a weekly basis. Each one has the potential to take me down with an unexpected curve ball.

One friend called, in extreme panic some months ago, because her car wouldn’t start. She had work that needed to be picked up right away, and asked if I could pick up her papers from the printers immediately? Sure! However, she is delightfully YELLOW (like me). So, I felt the freedom to ask if she was “certain the papers would be ready to be picked up if I left right away?”

I would NEVER have asked a BLUE the same question; because, a BLUE would never have set the process in motion if the papers had not definitely been ready. A RED would not have panicked, but rather, methodically, arranged pick up from someone reliable. A GREEN would not have reacted so unnerved, and probably would have let it go until later, whenever, oh well. It will get done eventually.

It was a good thing I understood my YELLOW friend.  She had not checked with the printer.  The papers were not ready for 3 more hours.  By then, her husband was home and had fixed her car.

It saved me what would have been a wasted trip and loss of valuable time in my day.

This is only one illustration out of hundreds.

I have 10 grandchildren. Have I mentioned this before? If I had not understood their temperaments, they might have put me in an early grave by now. However, thankfully, I know which ones need attention, which need affection, which need praise, which need their space and which need help at any given moment!

Life is so much easier, and more enjoyable, because I have learned the Temperaments! I highly recommend The Real You by Vicki Barnes. Also my FREE eBook when you subscribe to this blog!

My BLUE husband is incredibly thoughtful and sensitive. He is authentically interested in me and wants me to feel the same about him.

We went out to eat last night to one of our favorite cozy restaurants overlooking the ocean. He enjoys talking about his day over dinner. I KNOW to listen – and, I TRY to listen – because, he truly wants to connect. Last night’s riveting story was about his clients who want their washer/dryer moved from the kitchen to the hallway. I was much more fascinated by the couple who had come into the restaurant after we had.

The young man and young woman, sat across from us. They were obviously on their first date. She actually giggled as he pulled her chair out to seat her at the table. He was leaning across the table so far (to be closer to her) that he drug his shirt into his salad, which caused her to giggle aloud again. She was adorable – all dressed up (for our casual beach community). I could tell her sundress looked new. She was GREEN, so soft spoken and sweet, and he looked like an aggressive RED/YELLOW who pretty much dominated the conversation throughout the dinner. He was trying his best to impress her with stories and jokes. He must have reached across to touch her arm or hand a dozen times during the meal!

In the meantime, the washer/dryer story was where I should have been focused.

I apologized for being easily distracted.  Duane said he was used to it (ouch) but said he gets a kick out of me analyzing everyone we meet according to their temperaments. He is truly the greatest guy on the earth.

Our waiter was new – definitely, a BLUE! He was so conscientious and careful with our order. He came back several times to apologize profusely because our dinner had taken longer than usual coming to our table. He was genuinely concerned, not just going through the motions.

Think about the waiters/waitresses who pay no or little attention to their customers. GREEN servers have a hard time, initially, making eye contact. They are softer spoken. Timid.  RED servers are all business and accurately fast. Movers and shakers.  YELLOW servers are the most fun, enjoying their jobs, friendly conversationalist, but probably are not as efficient as others.

Remember, everyone is born with a pre-disposition. Two of the four temperaments are your primary identity.  You have a choice what to do with the strengths and weaknesses linked to your temperaments.

God intentionally created you with His plan in mind for your life. He knew which Temperament would be best to accomplish His purpose for you on this earth.

“Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you, The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day.” Psalm 139:13-16, The Message.

Look around today and see if you can identify some random people and their temperaments. It will certainly spice up your summer days!




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