Are You CRITICAL?

The BLUE Temperament has so many positive traits. One has to look hard to discover an area that needs work. Positive traits, as wonderful as they are, take no effort, no energy and no growing on the behalf of their owners.

BLUES are extremely serious and conscientious, wanting life to be meaningful. BLUES are the planners. BLUES make the best and most loyal friends. These are the people you see reading books in some corner. Usually, they are the more intelligent – deeper and most excellent learners – of all the Temperaments. They are notorious for being hard on themselves because of the perfectionist aspect of their Temperament. This very fact causes them to be critical in all other areas of life as well.

I have a BLUE sister, husband, kids, grandkids, friends and co-workers. They are loyal, honest, diligent and trustworthy. You cannot find a better friend than a BLUE (melancholy) Temperament.

However, try watching a movie with them…

BLUES spot every flaw, weakness, poor plot line and inept mistake possible! They quickly notice every inconsistency and incorrect fact- even though it is ONLY A MOVIE.

They point out problems in restaurants and on menus.

They critique church services…even when I notice nothing wrong.

A BLUE is honest – a speaker of truth. Often times, they see no fault in critiquing people, places or things; because, it is simply speaking the TRUTH. They do not see this as a negative. Therefore, I am happy to help BLUES of the world realize this area of concern which is very noticeable to non-BLUES.

I have a million stories for this particular Temperament; because, I have been married to a BLUE for 47 years.

It began on our honeymoon. I see most things through the delightful, creative, playful, imaginative YELLOW lenses of my eyes.

A BLUE has one lens: REALITY.

We were driving up the magnificent, picturesque coast highway along the Pacific Ocean, three days into our honeymoon, when I noticed the most romantic little B&B on a cliff overlooking the water five stories below. It was hidden behind some trees and we almost drove right by without seeing it. “Oh my, let’s stop and see if they have any available rooms,” I exclaimed.

My new BLUE husband used only two sentences to quickly dash my dreamy aspirations.

It was something about a construction code violation, and proximity to the cliff with no possible licensing for the permits to build without footage clearance etc. The second sentence was to remind me of his plan and hotel reservations he had already had in place for months.

For the next few miles, I began learning about the “critical eye” (as he likes to call it) of the BLUE Temperament.

Should I add, this also enlightened me regarding a BLUE Temperament’s lack of spontaneity and fun? Okay, that would be another blog.

My BLUE granddaughter explains her Temperament is a curse when it comes to reading some recreational novels. “It is so painful to read them, because they just aren’t believable, Mimi!”

HELLO! This is exactly why I read novels!

BLUES see in BLACK and WHITE – RIGHT or WRONG.

BLUES are critical by nature. It is the way they are born. This character trait can be considered positive in many areas of life; because, being detail oriented, they quickly see mistakes and flaws other temperaments miss (or care nothing about).
However, criticism can be hurtful, even damaging, when directed at other people.

Life must make sense to a BLUE Temperament. Not so with the rest of us! YELLOWS require FUN and FASHION. GREENS just want to be PEACEFULLY HAPPY. REDS simply need to ACCOMPLISH the impossible.

God must have delighted in creating such amazing, complicated and challenging Temperaments for every person on Earth. However, His plan includes our turning the negatives over to Him so He can be glorified through balancing our lives! He smoothes out the rough edges! We can’t do it without HIM.

AGAIN: We can not succeed in life without GOD in charge of our Temperaments!

His Bible gives direction and help so that each Temperament can learn what He expects from us:

“Live creatively, friends. If someone falls into sin, forgivingly restore him, saving your critical comments for yourself. You might be needing forgiveness before the day is out.”
Gal.6:1

“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part.” Matt.7:1-5

“So where does that leave you when you criticize a brother? And where does that leave you when you condescend to a sister? I’d say it leaves you looking pretty silly—or worse. Eventually, we’re all going to end up kneeling side by side in the place of judgment, facing God. Your critical and condescending ways aren’t going to improve your position there one bit. Read it for yourself in Scripture: ‘As I live and breathe,’ God says, ‘every knee will bow before me; Every tongue will tell the honest truth that I and only I am God.’ So tend to your knitting. You’ve got your hands full just taking care of your own life before God.” Romans 14:10-12.

“We’re not in charge of how you live out the faith, looking over your shoulders, suspiciously critical. We’re partners, working alongside you, joyfully expectant. I know that you stand by your own faith, not by ours.” II Cor. 1:24

(Above passages are from The Message.)

Our world would be sadly shallow and empty without the richness of the BLUES in our lives! They love appreciation. So, find some BLUES this week and tell them how valuable they are to you! (Just remember to use correct grammar!)

 

 

 

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