I am a morning person.
I honestly love waking up before the sun rises. It feels like it adds hours to my day, and everything is new and fresh!
My daughter is not a morning person.
From the time my daughter was old enough to talk, she wasn’t excited about talking early in the morning. In fact, she wasn’t excited about anything in the morning. I started her on vitamins. I was convinced – by the time she entered kindergarten – I would have taught her to be a morning person.
Seriously, I tried every ploy, bribe and threat known to mankind to train this child to appreciate mornings at a young age. After all, her dad and I were morning people. Her two brothers were early risers. What was her problem?
I remember sneaking into her room to set her clock ahead 15 minutes, thinking this might motivate her to step it up. I planned special mornings to go out for breakfast, before school, just to get her excited. I soon discovered “excited” was not a word in her vocabulary before noon on any given day.
As a young child, she had no energy to move quickly in the morning. Figuring she must have been unusually tired, I scheduled a doctor’s visit. She was fine.
Our kids had an early bedtime curfew of 7 pm, during elementary years; so, she wasn’t lacking in sleep. In middle school, it was 8 pm. How could anyone have been tired after 14 hours of sleep at night?
In the mornings, I would turn on all the house lights and play fun music on the radio before her school wake up call. Yet, I would be met with a glassy stare and few words as she methodically got dressed for school.
There was no breakfast conversation at all.
Getting her lunch made and her to the car, without tears being shed, was a huge undertaking. I never quite had a perfect record; but, I kept trying.
By the way, all my added stimulation in the house had my boys wound up like tops! And, they didn’t need extra motivation!
I will admit, Nancy was as close to perfect as a child could get. She was loving, obedient and careful not to be disrespectful. However, as the sun rose every day, she answered all my questions in two words or less, just to get by. She planned her school wardrobe and always finished her homework the night before. So, her mornings were as stress free as possible.
Maybe, the problem was the school? Should we change schools? No. Saturdays were the same.
Unfortunately, for years I took it personally. I must not have been a fun mom. How is this possible? Of course I am a fun mom.
She was a wonderful student. Her teachers loved having her in their classes. She had a hundred friends and, once she came home from school, she was a happy child!
Her high school years were less traumatic for me; because, I had resigned myself to accepting the truth. She would never be happy about mornings. There would never be any cozy mother/daughter early morning chats over a hot beverage. She was a night person. Her bedroom light was still on as my husband and I retired each night.
She always found jobs that didn’t require early morning clock-ins. I don’t think she had many early morning classes in college either.
It took years for me to accept Nancy would never like mornings.
Her fate was sealed when she married a man who was not a morning person either.
I am now convinced this morning person or not a morning person is an inborn trait, much like the human temperament.
I am also confident it can cross temperament lines, with no specific temperament owning this trait of morning person or not.
Upbringing will not change it.
I doubt one can grow out of it.
Therapy would be a waste of money.
Today, our daughter is still pretty perfect. She is a wife and mom of three girls, and still is NOT a morning person.
I have smiled a lot since her kids were born. Her firstborn is not a morning person either. My, oh my, it is now so funny watching her experience the exact things I lived through with her!
Nancy came over the other morning- on her way to take her daughter to a 0 period class. It was all I could do to keep from laughing out loud. The pain on my daughter’s face prevented me from brutalizing her anymore than she was already obviously suffering with it being so early.
Ah, the circle of life.
I am blessed to live close enough to our kids and grandkids that I can have a mother/daughter coffee in the afternoon now.