How to Get Along With Anyone: Step 5

This is number five in a series of ten posts How to Get Along With Anyone, taking into consideration that each of us were born with different temperaments. Here are Steps 1, 2, 3 and 4 in case you missed them!

Not everyone wants to hear your unsolicited opinion.




I sure am. I have such a wealth of experience and knowledge, with vast education, when it comes to certain topics. How is it possible people are not lining up to hear my opinions?

Personal opinions are just that – opinions.

Unless you have documented proof backing up the opinion – which would no longer render it simply an opinion- it is your opinion against another’s.

A perfect example took place a couple days ago while I was watching six of our grandchildren attempting to construct a giant castle.

All over the floor of our great room were Lincoln Logs and Tinker Toys. This started out to be an exciting, fun project until opinions began to clash. Each child had his/her own plan for building the castle (None of which corresponded with the instructional pamphlet, by the way).  Suddenly, one child knocked down half the structure. Next, two of them walked away and quit.

The remaining four decided to let one of them run the show, and the others would be helpers. Brilliant! They kept their opinions to themselves. The end result was a huge castle that defied description.

Behavior such as this is expected from kids, but I have seen a roomful of adults make that seem like child’s play.

Is it really worth the strain and uncomfortable tension’ in a room, when you have to offer an opinion that contradicts the train of conversation? Do you want to be that person everyone expects will try and insert an opinion, whatever the topic?

Acclaimed columnist and author Ann Landers said it well, “Discuss, but don’t argue. It is the mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.”

This is her opinion.  I heartily agree. I might even add “Discuss, if asked!”

If getting along with almost everyone is a high priority in your life this year, keep the majority of your personal opinions to yourself. Perhaps, write them in a journal and check on the validity of your expertise on the various topics down the road six months.

I found a great scripture on this subject. This is God’s opinion, so it’s TRUTH. I hope you love it as much as I do.

Romans 12:6-8, “If you preach, just preach God’s Message, nothing else; if you help, just help, don’t take over; if you teach, stick to your teaching; if you give encouraging guidance, be careful that you don’t get bossy; if you’re put in charge, don’t manipulate; if you’re called to give aid to people in distress, keep your eyes open and be quick to respond; if you work with the disadvantaged, don’t let yourself get irritated with them or depressed by them. Keep a smile on your face.” (The Message)

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