Compliment someone every day. Say something nice to someone who least expects it.
I was fighting crowds during the holiday rush the week before Christmas. A young woman was in a long line behind me, when I noticed how nicely she was dressed. I glanced around twice to get a better look, noticing her smart haircut, cute short boots and long sweater jacket. Her earrings even matched her blouse! I had to say something, “You look amazing!”
Suffice it to say, I am certain she already knew how nice she looked. Obviously, she had gone to great lengths to put together her fashionable outfit; but, when I complimented her, she acted completely stunned. “Thank you so much for bothering to say that,” she replied. I smiled and continued, “Well, you look so cute from your hair to your shoes, I had to say something.” Again, she thanked me. After I had paid for my merchandise and was walking away, she stopped me to thank me a third time, saying my comments had made her week!
Who would have guessed she had needed a compliment? She was better dressed than anyone in the store, and looked like she had just walked out of a fashion magazine. Actually, I had been hoping she wouldn’t look closely at my faded tennies and was shocked at her total surprise that I had complimented her out loud.
The truth is, no one knows what goes on inside another person’s life. I never would have guessed this woman needed a compliment. The outside of a person can be very deceiving. We grew up hearing, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” This is absolutely true.
I smile to imagine how the rest of her day might have gone. Hopefully, my passing compliment gave her a lift in her step and, perhaps, the nudge to be encouraging to someone else she met later that day.
My husband compliments me, easily. I don’t take it for granted, believe me. However, he says it is not a natural response for him to compliment others – especially, co-workers on the job. He makes himself do it; because, the end result is workers who will go the extra mile for him. He, intentionally, praises a job done well – even though they are employees who actually get paid to do the job.
Think about it. If someone compliments you, it feels good. In some instances, it can change the direction your day is headed!
Try it today. In the next couple of hours, think of something nice to say to someone.
After the reaction from the woman at the mall, I found it much easier to look for nice things to say for the next few days – at the grocery store, the cleaners, to the neighbor who was putting her trash outside. I actually called across the street and told her I loved the color of her blouse. She burst out laughing and hollered back, “Thanks, I needed that!” Now, she waves at me every time she sees me!
People who are known for nice things that come out of their mouths, are people we all enjoy being around.
Proverbs 13:3, “Careful words make for a careful life; careless talk may ruin everything”.
Proverbs 18:21, “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit- you choose.”