I loved hearing about my dad’s growing up years in small town, Lyons, Nebraska. I loved hearing about the general store his dad had owned. (My grandfather I never met.) He talked about the downtown red brick streets and his mom (my grandmother) who was the high school English teacher and the Post Mistress of the Post Office.
Dad was an amazing story teller of memories.
My dad was all heart. Traditions were important to him. His predominantly BLUE temperament was obvious to all who knew him. Dad loved God. He was the number one man in my life as far back as I remember. I compared every boyfriend to him. Each one always came up short- until I met Duane, also a predominantly BLUE temperament.
BLUES are the most sensitive of all four temperaments. They have a difficult time letting go of unpleasant memories, but quickly enjoy making new ones. Emotionally, they run the deepest of all four temperaments.
My sister, also predominantly BLUE, explains it this way, “Traditions are more than just events. To a BLUE, traditions are about people. Holidays, reunions, birthday parties are very fun – but pretty much empty rooms – without people to celebrate. We are not so much interested in the ambiance as the people.”
Regarding kids, she remembered- “little BLUES care about connections made during special occasions. Adults involved can actually play a part in making the little BLUE into the person he/she will become. These events can also be scary to BLUE children if no one takes the time to connect with them, to acknowledge they are there. Little BLUES will disappear into the woodwork if told to stay back and be quiet.”
My sister finished by pointing out, “Things are connected to memories – which are connected to people.”
I didn’t know very much about temperaments when we first married. I did, however, recognize that I (YELLOW) was more interested in lavishly decorating and preparing for a party than Duane. Once the guests arrived, Duane would visit with the people he enjoyed.
He also would remember every conversation he had after the event was over – especially, rehashing things he wished he had said differently. BLUES have an uncanny ability to remember moments in their past and, positive or otherwise, enjoy sharing their memories with those they love.
A personal note: YELLOWS crash when each party is over, convinced it was far better than the last- and deflated until the next event is on the horizon! Ambience is EVERYTHING to a YELLOW! “Rehashing” is not in our vocabulary.
BLUES are the best friends to have – loyal, trustworthy, honest and true. I have heard BLUE husbands are the least likely ever to be unfaithful. BLUES are born with a moral compass: right or wrong, black or white. They have great respect for integrity in others.
BLUES, though often quiet, are recognized by how intensely they attack any project. They tend to be perfectionists, and can be harder on themselves than others are on them. They have the ability to focus tightly on a project and set high standards, for themselves, to see it through.
For emotional growth, BLUES need appreciation for thinking projects through and for their quality work. They love to be appreciated for simply being responsible. They need acceptance, stability, security and to belong. Because, of his/her fragile self image, a BLUE is nurtured by praise and appreciation. Encourage them away from negativity.
BLUES are great planners and organizers. Since they need help overcoming negativity, structure and organization are critical. They will adhere to a well thought out, and clearly stated, calendar. Details are important to them.
If you have a BLUE in your life, you are truly blessed. They are dependable, gentle giants. It is extremely important to treasure those BLUES – and say so- because, they WILL remember!
Perfect scripture for a BLUE, Psalm 32:1,2 & 10,11. (The Message)
“Count yourself lucky, how happy you must be—you get a fresh start, your slate’s wiped clean.
Count yourself lucky—God holds nothing against you and you’re holding nothing back from him.
God-defiers are always in trouble; God-affirmers find themselves loved every time they turn around.
Celebrate God. Sing together—everyone! All you honest hearts, raise the roof!”