Do You TALK Too Much?

When I was a teen, there was a popular song by Joe Jones entitled,

“You Talk Too Much:”

“You talk too much, You worry me to death You talk too much, You even worry my pet

You just talk, talk, talk Talk too much

You talk about people, That you don’t know You talk about people, Wherever you go

You just talk too much!”

Have I mentioned my Temperament is half YELLOW?

YELLOWS are fun and delightful; but, one blatant negative is their need to TALK. YELLOWS love people, need friends and by nature TALK easily.

My mouth has gotten me in more trouble, in my lifetime, than anything else.

Speaking before thinking was definitely a habit, growing up. Thankfully, I have matured somewhat.  However, it is STILL in the back of my mind that thinking should take place before words come from my mouth.

Chatty Cathy was a pull-string “talking” doll manufactured by the Mattel toy company in the 60’s. I was labeled with that nickname, in elementary school, but didn’t realize “chatty” was actually an inborn part of my Temperament until 20 years ago when I began studying the four human Temperaments in depth.

YELLOWS love to talk. We never struggle for topics, and can pretty much fill a conversational void wherever we are. I had always considered this ability a special gift from God! At gatherings, as some stand on the sidelines not sure what to say, I have never once experienced an insecure communication dilemma!

Pick a topic! Most YELLOWS are well equipped to converse on any given topic as it presents itself! AND, they think people actually want to hear their perspective and opinions!

I bet you are thinking of someone right now who fits the bill!

Unfortunately, non-YELLOWS of the world don’t necessarily enjoy all the generous conversation YELLOWS have to offer.  With great affection, my dad used to tell me, as a child, “Kathleen, it isn’t a good idea to say everything you think!”

YELLOWS are the one Temperament who tends to talk too much. So generous with their thoughts and opinions, they often forget there are other people qualified to converse on  issues! When they come up for air, perish the thought that someone else would pick up during the break and change the subject. If a YELLOW is on a roll, you might see a RED walk off (not concerned about offending people) or a GREEN zone out (having lost interest) or a BLUE secretly criticizing everything being said, while smiling on the outside.

On the positive side, every party and social function needs a YELLOW. There are few dull or boring moments around YELLOWS! They are definitely crowd pleasers if the party is losing its fun element.

The key here is balance. Every Temperament has negative traits.  Learning about them is half the solution.

My Bible Study is in a surprising book right now entitled, “ZIP IT!”  At first, hearing about the book for this session, I momentarily wondered if it was for MY benefit.  (Our leader knows I’m a YELLOW!) However, I was assured everyone would be involved in the topic. What an amazing book!

The Bible is clear on the subject of the mouth. We ALL need guidance and help when it comes to learning how to control our mouths; but; YELLOWS should have this book on their ‘must read’ list!

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Eph. 4:29

“A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it!” James 3:5“

A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.” Proverbs 15:1

“It is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.” Matt. 15:11

“Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips!” Ps. 141:3

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” Ps. 19:14

YELLOWS of the world: Keep the above verses on the refrigerator door and begin each day in good company!

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  • Barbara Park

    I so appreciate your blog Kathleen! Always appropriate for where I am on any given day!
    Barbara Park

  • Cheryl O’Neil

    hahahaha, I wish I was red enough to just walk off when conversations were tedious or irritating.