Can You Pin-Point Your Passion in Life?

What is your true PASSION in life? I have heard it said, if you spend your life doing what you are PASSIONATE about- you’ll never have to work one day!

Most of my life has been spent working with kids. Kids theatre, kids ministry and teaching church school. I love working with kids. I figured working with kids was my passion.

However, I have a dark secret. A secret I have struggled with for decades and finally I need to come clean.

Over the years, I have had a love/hate relationship with ‘Vacation Bible School’. I dread it every summer. Summertime Vacation Bible Schools’ are intentionally geared to engaging kids for a fun week, with a goal of reaching young hearts for Jesus.

So what has been my struggle with VBS these past decades?

I Have a New BEST FRIEND!

Disclaimer: People with YELLOW Temperaments love people and get new best friends easily.  So, a note to my true best friends: this too will pass.

My new best friend owns the local cleaners. Changing her name to protect the innocent, I will call her Lois.

Lois sees me once a month when I deliver or pick up our cleaning. Sometimes, we only have one or two items in our order. It is not like we are high paying patrons who keep her in business; but, she makes me feel like I am her favorite person in the world.

Last month, I had barely walked through the door when she saw me from the back of her business and hollered, “Mrs. Chapman your hair is so beautiful today!”

She always has something nice to say about what I’m wearing, from my shoes to my earrings.

“Mrs. Chapman, how are you today?”

I tell her, “Please, call me Kathleen.”

Yet, I remain, “Mrs. Chapman.”

“Mrs. Chapman, isn’t it a lovely day today?” “Mrs. Chapman, the breeze is so wonderful in this town.” Mrs. Chapman, you always look so bright and cheerful!”

A few months ago, she saw me at another place of business in town and came up behind me, “Mrs. Chapman, my day is brighter now that I’ve seen you today!”

Okay, admittedly, I may be a bit shallow, loving the positive comments and compliments.  However, you can’t argue with the fact that this woman has power in her attitude and words!

Do You Understand People?

The greatest thing in learning the four human Temperaments is it helps you understand the people around you!

Are they RED, YELLOW, BLUE or GREEN?

I have a husband, kids, grandkids, co-workers, friends, and an assortment of people who come in and out of my life on a weekly basis. Each one has the potential to take me down with an unexpected curve ball.

One friend called, in extreme panic some months ago, because her car wouldn’t start. She had work that needed to be picked up right away, and asked if I could pick up her papers from the printers immediately? Sure! However, she is delightfully YELLOW (like me). So, I felt the freedom to ask if she was “certain the papers would be ready to be picked up if I left right away?”

I would NEVER have asked a BLUE the same question; because, a BLUE would never have set the process in motion if the papers had not definitely been ready. A RED would not have panicked, but rather, methodically, arranged pick up from someone reliable. A GREEN would not have reacted so unnerved, and probably would have let it go until later, whenever, oh well. It will get done eventually.

Are You CRITICAL?

The BLUE Temperament has so many positive traits. One has to look hard to discover an area that needs work. Positive traits, as wonderful as they are, take no effort, no energy and no growing on the behalf of their owners.

BLUES are extremely serious and conscientious, wanting life to be meaningful. BLUES are the planners. BLUES make the best and most loyal friends. These are the people you see reading books in some corner. Usually, they are the more intelligent – deeper and most excellent learners – of all the Temperaments. They are notorious for being hard on themselves because of the perfectionist aspect of their Temperament. This very fact causes them to be critical in all other areas of life as well.

I have a BLUE sister, husband, kids, grandkids, friends and co-workers. They are loyal, honest, diligent and trustworthy. You cannot find a better friend than a BLUE (melancholy) Temperament.

However, try watching a movie with them…

Do You TALK Too Much?

When I was a teen, there was a popular song by Joe Jones entitled,

“You Talk Too Much:”

“You talk too much, You worry me to death You talk too much, You even worry my pet

You just talk, talk, talk Talk too much

You talk about people, That you don’t know You talk about people, Wherever you go

You just talk too much!”

Have I mentioned my Temperament is half YELLOW?

YELLOWS are fun and delightful; but, one blatant negative is their need to TALK. YELLOWS love people, need friends and by nature TALK easily.

My mouth has gotten me in more trouble, in my lifetime, than anything else.

Are You SELFISH?

We all know folks whom we would consider to be tight or cheap with their money. This is not the same as being SELFISH.

SELFISH is defined as (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.  This is one of those quiet, deadly sins that sneak up in our lives without much notice at first.

About a month ago, I was shopping in a relatively new store in our city, a type of décor shop where you can purchase items to decorate your home.

An interesting conversation took place next to me. Two nice friends were discussing a 3rd person’s dilemma of owning a new home and not having a clue as to how to decorate it.

One of the ladies said, “Why don’t you help her? You are a professional decorator and she would absolutely love your help.” To which the woman sweetly replied, “No thanks.”

The conversation escalated, “Come on, why won’t you help her a little? It won’t cost you anything; and, I bet she would pay you.”  The woman sweetly said, “Please drop it, too much effort.”

The story gets better:

ARE YOU RUDE?

Okay, try something.  To the next person you meet today, simply smile and say, “Have a nice day.”  Notice what happens.

My Temperament has an abrupt side to it. I am half RED. Of the four human temperaments, one is more easily RUDE. (To read up on the Temperaments, subscribe to my blog and download my FREE eBook on Temperaments.)

While pushing my cart through the grocery store the other day, I was suddenly bumped from behind by a woman half my age. Immediately, I said, “Excuse me,” as I pulled over- even though it hadn’t been my fault. The woman quickly turned toward me as she walked by, asking, “What did you just say?” I repeated, “I said, ‘Excuse me.’ ” She grunted as she mumbled, “That better be what you said.”

I was stunned. What did she mean? Was she angry with me? That 5 second encounter left a mark!  “I bet she is RED,” I thought to myself!

GREENS Just Want Peace and Quiet

GREENS are NICE and PEACEFUL. They are actually the nicest people you will meet in the world.

If you know someone who seems too nice to be true, you have met a GREEN temperament.

Consistently kind, GREENS make the world a better place. Those with this incredibly nice, peaceful temperament are the real deal.

My brother-in-law married into our family about 40 years ago. From day one, he was the nicest guy I’d ever met. We are a rather loud, vocal family, and I worried how he would adjust. He never had to raise his voice to make a point, or get his opinion across, at family gatherings. I asked my sister if he was like this at home. “What you see is what you get; yes, he is always remarkably calm!” Her smile convinced me she was telling the truth!

To this day, Glenn has been true to the GREEN reputation. He is a peacekeeper who values warm, personal relationships. He is independent, reflective, reliable, steady and NICE. GREENS are good listeners and clear thinkers- but do not usually give advice unless they are asked.

GREENS strive to avoid conflict and confrontation at all costs. Controversy is a peacekeeper’s nightmare. So, to avoid it, they often keep their mouths shut, refraining from voicing objections or opinions. They are content when life is on an even keel and things are running smoothly.

GREENS are well-rounded individuals who are not prone to extremes.

The GREEN temperament is also simple to identify in children. Let me give you an example:

 

BLUES Just Want to Think

My son-in-law, Bob, challenged me to compare temperament colors to cartoon characters in Winnie the Pooh collection of children’s stories.

How perfect for this post on the BLUE temperament. Pooh Bear is a perfect BLUE!

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“If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together…there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think but the most important thing is, even if we’re apart…I’ll always be with you.”  ~ Winnie the Pooh

The deepest of all the temperaments is the BLUE. No, this is not my conclusion. It is the joint conclusion of every authority on temperaments dating back decades upon decades. BLUES are the thinkers, planners and deepest feelers of the world.

YELLOWS Just Want to Have FUN!

Weekly, I speak on the Four Temperaments and – invariably – am asked, “Can you describe each temperament in one sentence?”

Here goes: REDS will HELP you do it RIGHT…IMMEDIATELY!

YELLOWS just want to have FUN and FRIENDS.

BLUES are PLANNERS, who care VERY DEEPLY.

GREENS are the NICEST, who love PEACE and QUIET.

Done. Of course there is SO much more to each temperament, because each has its strengths and weaknesses. Also, the same temperaments can look different considering the age, gender, background and, sometimes, special physical challenges of each person.

Let’s focus on YELLOWS for a moment.  I guarantee each YELLOW person wants FUN in his/her life.

This is also obvious in very young YELLOWS. Our YELLOW granddaughter has never missed attending a birthday party to which she has been invited. Actually, she has been known to invite herself to parties and, sadly, has had to learn not everyone in the world wants to meet her.