Are You CRITICAL?

The BLUE Temperament has so many positive traits. One has to look hard to discover an area that needs work. Positive traits, as wonderful as they are, take no effort, no energy and no growing on the behalf of their owners.

BLUES are extremely serious and conscientious, wanting life to be meaningful. BLUES are the planners. BLUES make the best and most loyal friends. These are the people you see reading books in some corner. Usually, they are the more intelligent – deeper and most excellent learners – of all the Temperaments. They are notorious for being hard on themselves because of the perfectionist aspect of their Temperament. This very fact causes them to be critical in all other areas of life as well.

I have a BLUE sister, husband, kids, grandkids, friends and co-workers. They are loyal, honest, diligent and trustworthy. You cannot find a better friend than a BLUE (melancholy) Temperament.

However, try watching a movie with them…

Do You TALK Too Much?

When I was a teen, there was a popular song by Joe Jones entitled,

“You Talk Too Much:”

“You talk too much, You worry me to death You talk too much, You even worry my pet

You just talk, talk, talk Talk too much

You talk about people, That you don’t know You talk about people, Wherever you go

You just talk too much!”

Have I mentioned my Temperament is half YELLOW?

YELLOWS are fun and delightful; but, one blatant negative is their need to TALK. YELLOWS love people, need friends and by nature TALK easily.

My mouth has gotten me in more trouble, in my lifetime, than anything else.

Are You SELFISH?

We all know folks whom we would consider to be tight or cheap with their money. This is not the same as being SELFISH.

SELFISH is defined as (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.  This is one of those quiet, deadly sins that sneak up in our lives without much notice at first.

About a month ago, I was shopping in a relatively new store in our city, a type of décor shop where you can purchase items to decorate your home.

An interesting conversation took place next to me. Two nice friends were discussing a 3rd person’s dilemma of owning a new home and not having a clue as to how to decorate it.

One of the ladies said, “Why don’t you help her? You are a professional decorator and she would absolutely love your help.” To which the woman sweetly replied, “No thanks.”

The conversation escalated, “Come on, why won’t you help her a little? It won’t cost you anything; and, I bet she would pay you.”  The woman sweetly said, “Please drop it, too much effort.”

The story gets better:

ARE YOU RUDE?

Okay, try something.  To the next person you meet today, simply smile and say, “Have a nice day.”  Notice what happens.

My Temperament has an abrupt side to it. I am half RED. Of the four human temperaments, one is more easily RUDE. (To read up on the Temperaments, subscribe to my blog and download my FREE eBook on Temperaments.)

While pushing my cart through the grocery store the other day, I was suddenly bumped from behind by a woman half my age. Immediately, I said, “Excuse me,” as I pulled over- even though it hadn’t been my fault. The woman quickly turned toward me as she walked by, asking, “What did you just say?” I repeated, “I said, ‘Excuse me.’ ” She grunted as she mumbled, “That better be what you said.”

I was stunned. What did she mean? Was she angry with me? That 5 second encounter left a mark!  “I bet she is RED,” I thought to myself!

Why I Do Kids Theatre!

This summer, our older Musical Theatre camp, is presenting:

Every summer, for over 35 years, I have produced Christian theatre for kids.  I also do secular shows, during the school year, for various public school districts.  And, no, I do not do kids theatre because of the money. (This is truly a Laugh Out Loud moment.)

Performing on a stage – in front of an audience – can be seriously life changing for a child.  If it is a bad experience, the child may never be persuaded to return to a stage for the remainder of his or her life.

However, if it is a good and positive experience, it can be a moment of overwhelming discovery for the child. Kids feel empowered, self confident, comfortable in their skin, proud, thankful, appreciated and loved when the audience applauds their work! They also develop comfortable skills, associated with performing in any capacity, as they grow older. Theatre is an investment that keeps on growing and giving.

I remember my first actual play…

My Results are IN!

For my Mother’s Day gift, I sent away (six weeks ago) to Ancestry.com for my DNA results, curious as to my ancestors’ beginnings.

I discovered I am 39% Dutch, 25% British, 25% Irish, 8% Scandinavian and 2% Jewish! I knew I was mostly Dutch; but, it is fun to see the extent of my grandparents’ and great grandparents’ history.

Of course, I immediately identified with Audrey Hepburn, a famous actress, who was also Dutch! I’m certain we are cousins! Look at the resemblance!

Born Audrey Kathleen Ruston, (did you know her middle name was Kathleen?) did you know Audrey was inducted into the International Best Dressed List Hall of Fame? She loved performing and looking fabulous.

Ah, the similarities between us are mind boggling!

I enjoyed finding out about some other distant cousins: Franklin D. Roosevelt and Theodore Roosevelt – both of Dutch decent and both Presidents of the U. S.!

Do you remember Martin Van Buren, the eighth President of the United States, and the first president who was not of English, Irish, or Scottish descent? Dutch was spoken in his house when he was a boy.

Thomas Edison, also Dutch, was an inventor and businessman.  Another Dutchman, Walter Cronkite, became a CBS Evening News anchor. Perhaps, my creative and inquiring mind comes from such as these?

Vincent van Gogh and Rembrandt may be the most famous Dutch painters. Okay, sadly, I have nothing in common with either of them.

My, it’s been so interesting investigating since my DNA results have come back!

Mother’s Day is Coming!

As Mother’s Day approaches, dozens of mother/daughter articles and artifacts are appearing on the horizon. The pressure is on.

Each year, we are inundated with more and more attempts to identify the perfect mother/daughter combinations and celebrate those who have the best mother/daughter/son relationships. I notice people “one upping” each other as to the remarkable mothers they have now on social media. Famous mother/daughter duos are featured in magazines.

This holiday can not generate competition. The playing field is even.

Every mother is a super hero in her own way.

From my childhood, there are plenty of mother memories that warm my heart and equally as many that send blood curdling shivers through my body, causing me to wonder how my mom lived through having me as her daughter.

Top 10 Happy Marriage Secrets!

This week, I have been asked to speak on MY top 10 secrets of a happy marriage again at a young moms’ group. I am so glad Duane and I are having a good week.

After 47 years of marriage, yes, he is my best friend and we are very happy…this week. Just sayin…love doesn’t mean every week runs smoothly or happily! We have fun working on it!

So many approach marriage as though this huge event in their lives will assure their forever happiness. I know that is exactly how I felt. I had met the man of my dreams and I just knew – beyond any shadow of doubt – when we got married, we would live happily ever after! That created a whole lot of PRESSURE for my unsuspecting groom!

Marriage is a day by day by day intentionally lived life.

GREENS Just Want Peace and Quiet

GREENS are NICE and PEACEFUL. They are actually the nicest people you will meet in the world.

If you know someone who seems too nice to be true, you have met a GREEN temperament.

Consistently kind, GREENS make the world a better place. Those with this incredibly nice, peaceful temperament are the real deal.

My brother-in-law married into our family about 40 years ago. From day one, he was the nicest guy I’d ever met. We are a rather loud, vocal family, and I worried how he would adjust. He never had to raise his voice to make a point, or get his opinion across, at family gatherings. I asked my sister if he was like this at home. “What you see is what you get; yes, he is always remarkably calm!” Her smile convinced me she was telling the truth!

To this day, Glenn has been true to the GREEN reputation. He is a peacekeeper who values warm, personal relationships. He is independent, reflective, reliable, steady and NICE. GREENS are good listeners and clear thinkers- but do not usually give advice unless they are asked.

GREENS strive to avoid conflict and confrontation at all costs. Controversy is a peacekeeper’s nightmare. So, to avoid it, they often keep their mouths shut, refraining from voicing objections or opinions. They are content when life is on an even keel and things are running smoothly.

GREENS are well-rounded individuals who are not prone to extremes.

The GREEN temperament is also simple to identify in children. Let me give you an example:

 

BLUES Just Want to Think

My son-in-law, Bob, challenged me to compare temperament colors to cartoon characters in Winnie the Pooh collection of children’s stories.

How perfect for this post on the BLUE temperament. Pooh Bear is a perfect BLUE!

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“If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together…there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think but the most important thing is, even if we’re apart…I’ll always be with you.”  ~ Winnie the Pooh

The deepest of all the temperaments is the BLUE. No, this is not my conclusion. It is the joint conclusion of every authority on temperaments dating back decades upon decades. BLUES are the thinkers, planners and deepest feelers of the world.